2017 is nearly done. How did you choose to make it out for you? If you said not quite, don’t worry. 2018 is your fresh opportunity – to discover and design a Transformative You!
If You can Conceive Something in Your Mind and Believe It to be True, then You can Achieve It!
REMEMBER YOUR FUNDAMENTAL RIGHTS
As men, women and kids, we all have our fundamental rights. They are 14 in all:
- To state our needs
- To set priorities based on our needs
- To be treated with respect as an equal human being
- To express our feelings
- To express our values and opinions
- To say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ for ourselves
- To make mistakes
- To change our minds
- To say ‘I don’t understand’
- To ask for what we want
- To decline responsibility for the problems of others
- To dream beyond imagination
- To visualize achieving our goals
- To achieve our goals in reality
Keep these in mind at all times and don’t let anybody or anything ever come in their way. They are your fundamental rights when you signed up for planet Earth! Remember them always, now and in the future.
MAKE A BINDING AGREEMENT WITH YOURSELF
Take a fresh sheet of paper and write out the following agreement or type it on your computer or laptop. Take a print of it, sign it and laminate it. Keep this agreement in sight at all times. Your future is waiting for this commitment from you.
I, the undersigned, commit to furnish all materials and labor necessary to design and create the life of my dreams.
I know that only I can design my future. I have all the power within me that is required for me to design the future that I want. I have this innate intelligence.
I will only settle for achieving the life of my dreams and nothing less.
I will focus on results and reinforce the values of discipline, character, and perseverance until success is achieved.
I am the captain of my ship and I will navigate it to making my future bigger than my present.
I commit to making year 2018 my best ever year!
Signature of Commitment
ANSWER YOUR WHYS AND WHATS
Now that you have signed the dotted line and made that commitment to yourself, let’s get to work. Spend a lot of quality time in introspection – go really deep inside yourself and start to answering some of your whys and whats. Use the below questions as a starting point:
- Why do you do what you do?
- Why does it matter?
- What have you accomplished in your life so far (professional, financial, wellness, relationships, emotional, spiritual)?
- What did you learn in the process?
- What’s next for you?
- What are you grateful for?
- What could you be happy about if you chose to be?
- What does this mean to you?
- What will you be 1 year from now?
- What might make the difference that could change everything?
- What will you be 3 years from now?
- What are you responsible for being here?
- What will you be 5 years from now?
- What are you pretending not to know about it now?
- What will your impact be 100 years from now?
- Are you standing in your power or pleasing someone else?
- Are you acting on faith or fear?
- What does your intuition tell you about this?
EXPLORE YOUR PASSION
As you go deep, real deep into discovering yourself and answering some your whys and whats, also start to reflect on some of the following questions now:
- What inspires you?
- Which of your interests would you most like to pass on to your kids?
- What past passions have you lost touch with?
- What did you love doing as a child, as a teenager, when you first started work?
- When have you been so absorbed in something that you lost track of time? What were you doing?
- If you were accidentally locked in a bookshop overnight, which section would you camp out in?
- If you won the lottery and did not have to work for money, what would you choose to do with your time?
STEER CLEAR OF PHYSICAL AND PEOPLE DISTRACTORS
In today’s attention-deficit ecosystem, distractions often come in unannounced. They come from all sources, be it external such as social interactions, phone calls, Internet and social media or internal sources such as habits, excuses or illness. Make 2018 a year where you create and stick to your “Stop Doing” list. Make a list of all the things that you will no longer participate in and keep it high up on your agenda at all times. A couple of days ago, I was interviewing Mr. Ninad Tipnis for my upcoming book about how he manages his energy and commitment each day. Ninad is an eminent architect, a contemporary interior designer, an avid runner and the founder of JTCPL Designs. His mantra was simple, yet quite profound. His daily protocol is No GNCC, which essentially means No Gossip, No Negativity, No Criticism and No Complains. Can you imagine how your life could turn around if you eliminate all gossip, all negativity, all criticism and all complains from your daily agenda?
Come 2018, stop making excuses for what’s not working in your life. Stop complaining and criticising and choose to focus on all opportunities around you. Stop feeling the obligation to check and respond to your emails every 10 minutes. Stop connecting with all the energy vampires that surround you during your day. Stop sleeping too much and letting opportunities pass by silently. Wake up to life! Wake up to your deepest desires! Wake up to unleash your human potential!
MAKE YOURSELF A FUNCTION OF GOAL-SETTING
Living without clear goals is like driving in a thick fog. No matter how powerful your car is, you will still be slow and unsure. Similarly, our brains cannot take any action, unless we have a clear vision of what we want. When we think of goal-setting, a lot of times we get stuck in the “Hows”. You don’t need to know your “Hows” just yet. Just get your deepest goals, dreams and desires out as clear and as unambiguous as possible. Set yourself big and lofty goals. Go beyond the typical SMART acronym. So while your “3-day workweek” or “8-months of vacation every year” may not be realistic in the moment, don’t be stuck with trying to fit them into the SMART acronym. Dream big and follow it up with the courage, the determination, the discipline and the action plan to make it happen. Next, know your first step. That step will lead you to the next and the next. Yes, but do make your goals measurable and time-bound, so that you know you are making progress in the right direction within the prescribed timelines. When you set yourself lofty and audacious goals, you stretch yourself to make that a reality. Around 1975, when Bill Gates had a vision of a computer in every home, nobody in the world took it to be a SMART goal. As a matter of fact, his vision rode against what Thomas Watson, chairman IBM said way back in 1943 about the world market for computers being about five. Later, in 1977, Ken Olsen, president of Digital Equipment Corporation also ridiculed the idea of a personal computer. But, what is true today, is true today. When Steve Jobs dreamt of fitting over 1,000 songs into your pocket, people probably ridiculed at that idea. But come today, these dreams and visions are a reality. If Gates and Jobs would have probably stuck to SMART goals, I don’t know if a PC or an iPod would have ever seen the light of day. When you get me talking about setting goals, I simply cannot stop. Here’s another example – Back in 1954, when Roger Bannister broke the “4-minute barrier” of running a mile in under four minutes, experts and athletes claimed that it was impossible by any human to physically achieve something like that. But what happened; Roger Bannister broke this barrier and proved everyone wrong. Once he did, it suddenly became so realistic and attainable that within the following twelve months, over a dozen or more runners could break the 4-minute barrier as well.
My point is push yourself beyond the self-imposed limits (your current beliefs, your current knowledge, your current skill set and what others says or do) and make yourself a function of lofty goal-setting. Check out my other blog about a prescription for achieving your goals.
GET INTO THE LEAGUE OF PROS
As you embark on your heroic journey, you will need all the support you can garner. To get into a self-sustaining mode, it is critical to developing what I refer to, a life code. If I were to take the analogy of a wheel, a life code is the central hub and the spokes of the wheel that together determine the performance of the wheel. This wheel is you, your life. Every successful individual that I possibly know, every A-player on this planet confers to his/her life code. Your life code, according to me, should have the basic 4 spokes:
- System of ethics and values
- Habit-oriented mindset
- Deep circles of influence
- 100% personal responsibility
In my book, The Winning You, I have elaborated on the importance of each of these spokes, the very dimensions that will catapult your journey of transformation.
You will also need multiple reference points along the way that you can learn from, imitate, seek guidance from and who can challenge and motivate you to break through the boundaries of your comfort zone. These reference points come in several shapes and sizes and could be found in books, affirmations, mentors, other successful people that you can follow and coaches. A coach, for instance, is someone who offers support, accountability and structure to help you get from where you are to where you want to be. Both Bill Gates and Eric Schmidt (Executive Chairman of Alphabet Inc. and former CEO of Google) once said in an interview that everybody needs a coach to give them a perspective and watch what they are doing. According to Schmidt, one thing that people are never good at is seeing themselves as others see them. A coach really really helps!
Finally, as you progress on your journey to challenge the status quo and make that forward movement, your reference points can change. That is perfectly alright. For example, a mentor or coach you had at the beginning need not be your mentor/coach all along. Just as you graduate through each grade in school and your class teacher or class coordinator changes with each grade, your reference points can also change.
So, Champion, get set go! Be the author of your story. Make 2018 your transformational bestseller! See you on the other side!