Take Charge of Your Personal Development

American writer, Rita Mae Brown said, “Life is too short to be miserable.” I would rather say, “Life is too short to be miserable, but there’s more than enough time to create a much bigger future than you ever thought.” Feels quite a paradox, right? That’s where personal development comes in. It is a lifelong process that helps you assess your life, take charge of your vision and goals, and holistically uplevel to fulfill your potential. 

While working with my one-on-one coaching clients, most of whom are quite successful already, the common theme that outlines all of them is that they are barely scratching the surface of the impact they all could possibly have. By brewing continuously in the concoction of time pressures, deadlines, competition, and perfection, they all forget to see the big picture of personal development. 

Let me take you through an example that will help you see things clearer. Imagine you are person X. You have certain ambitions, aspirations, desires, and goals in life. Based on these goals and ambitions, you begin to do certain things, which you believe will help you achieve your goals. You establish routines and create plans and strategies, but eventually, somewhere down the line, you figure out that you aren’t going anywhere. Or, perhaps you do see results, and still within you feel insecure and incompetent. Why do you think this happens? Because somewhere deep inside of you, your self-image stays the same. Your sole focus on goals and ways to accomplish them makes it a lone game of desperation. Let’s say you have set up a health goal. Then, you get yourself enrolled in a gym, and buy new sneakers and gym wear. And, maybe you make certain promises to yourself and manage to go to the gym for a good 2 or 3 weeks. What happens after that? Really?

Real personal development goes beyond upskilling and technical growth and delves internally into understanding the subjective and contextual beings, who we truly are. If you are not aware of who you are at the core of your current identity, you can never change it to reflect who you truly want to be. A golfer who buys the best gear and takes golf lessons in the hope that it will improve his game will still be a lousy golfer unless he adopts the attitude, mindset, and beliefs of a good golfer.

Sometimes people think that personal development is only for those who are struggling with their goals and lives. Had that been the case, we wouldn’t see some of the most influential and successful people in the world like the late Steve Jobs and Richard Branson being avid proponents of personal development and growth. 

If you only keep repeating what you know, and doing what you know how to do, eventually you’re not going to get the results you need. Personal development starts with programming a new identity. And, that is rooted in 5 elements:

  1. The thoughts we think
  2. The emotions and feelings we feel (or suppress)
  3. The beliefs and stories we tell ourselves
  4. The words and language we use
  5. The behaviors and actions we exhibit. 

And, all of these elements are internal to us. All behaviors and actions begin with a choice and decision. And those aspects are also internal to us. 

The crux: your life isn’t a Marvel movie and nobody is coming to save you. Your journey of exploring new horizons starts with you taking charge of your personal development. Your turn to turn the focus inwards. 

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